“A wife is the joy of a man’s heart.” –Talmud
Flirting is something that comes naturally in a new relationship. Keeping flirtation alive throughout a marriage will help you maintain a healthy, passionate relationship. Knowing how (and when) to flirt with your wife can be a daunting challenge.
Remember the more subtle your titillation, the more likely she is to reciprocate.
How to Communicate Desire without Contact
Flirting isn’t just about sexuality; it is also about sensuality. Bring in all five senses to heighten her sexual awareness. Women respond to attractive scents, to the tone of your voice, and to the feel of your skin.
Non-verbal flirtation involves facial expressions. A wink, a smile, or even a look that tells her your desires will get her mind racing in the right direction. Don’t just send these signals behind closed doors. A glance you throw her way at breakfast will keep you on her mind all day.
Hearing your voice for no reason other than to tell her you love her and are thinking of her will make her feel desired. Call or text her with a compliment, knowing that she is glowing on the other end of the phone. When you are together, tell her nice things that you love about her for no reason other than to share with her your feelings.
Scents can set the mood for any occasion. Wearing her favorite cologne, cooking her favorite meal, or lighting a candle that she loves will show her that she is on your mind. These scents will get her pulse racing.
How to Touch Her
So often when life gets hectic, we go about our day without ever making physical contact. Taking the time to make that extra effort will change your marriage. A morning kiss, holding hands in the park, or simply brushing up against her when you pass will send signals of intimacy.
Each time you kiss your wife, hold it a little longer and wrap your arms around her waist. Catch her off-guard while she folds the clothes or washes dishes. Don’t force the kiss to lead to anything other than that moment together. Don’t worry, it will lead to greater things later on.
When you caress your wife, focus on her entire body. Don’t just go for her breast or between her thighs. She has many sensitive places on her body that are often neglected. Let her guide you over her body and tell you what she feels with each place that you touch. Don’t just assume she wants to be caressed softly. Ask her what she desires.
How to Surprise Your Wife
Marriage can grow predictable after time. You go through the same routine every day and adapt. Surprising your wife with something special is the ultimate flirtation device. Below are some ways to amaze your wife:
- Wake up early and prepare her breakfast. Add flowers and nice linens for a special effect.
- Show up at her work for lunch. Whether you bring something and eat in, or take her out, the alone time will be most appreciated.
- Send her flowers for no reason other than to express your love.
- Schedule a date to her favorite place and keep it a secret until you arrive. The anticipation will keep her heart pumping and her skin tingling.
- Do household chores that you normally wouldn’t do. If the laundry is folded and the floors are washes, that leaves her more time to give attention to you.
- Send her to the spa for a day without having to worry about things at home. Giving her a day to pamper herself will help her ease into the bedroom that night.
How to Add Variety to Your Sex Life
Just as our everyday lives become predictable, so do our sex lives. A woman who gets nothing but quickies will grow resentful and view sex as a chore rather than as fun. Granted you don’t have time for Tantric sex everyday, but adding in sexual variety will keep the flirtation open on both ends.
Be creative in the bedroom. Explore with your wife and let her know how she makes you feel. Understand that all sexual encounters don’t have to lead to intercourse. A simple session of kissing and caressing will let her wife know that you are in tune with her desires and it isn’t just about the end result for you.
Try to have at least one sexual encounter a month that lasts over the course of one to two hours. Take this time to really explore each other’s fantasies and get to know the sexual side of your partner. Sex shouldn’t be embarrassing with your spouse and you should be open about your sexual ambitions.
Buying her sex toys, lingerie, stockings, and heels will tell her that you find her attractive. It also sends the message that she can please you as well. After sex, talk with your wife about what you enjoyed and what you would like to try. It sets up the next encounter and also sends the message that she can satisfy your needs.